Saturday, September 24, 2011

Boundaries...

We all know boundaries are good things.  We know that without them we can loose our way, step into territory that is very dangerous, and even get hurt or worse.  When it comes to ministry with young teens boundaries are also very important.  Boundaries for discipline, boundaries for activities, boundaries for students, and, yes, boundaries for staff.  Here are some reminders of the importance of boundaries in connecting with students.

Connecting with students is what we long for.  It’s what we encourage you to be doing.  We all know that “real” ministry and discipleship happens more effectively over a Starbucks coffee or on the basketball court.  Trouble is, in today’s culture, these connections can lead to unhealthy accusations and the blurring of clear boundaries if we are not careful.  Here are a few boundaries we have in place for the protection of both our students and our volunteer staff.

  1. Let someone know:  When volunteers are meeting with students, we ask them to drop one of our paid staff an email and let us know.  Not so we can micro-manage, but so we can cover their back and, with good conscience, let others know what is going on in the ministry.
  2. Three is not a crowd:  Although the one on one meeting is a great chance for in depth conversation, it’s becoming a thing of the past.  It is usually better to take two kids with you that one.
  3. Use your head:  Sometimes there are situations that come up that dictate you do something you may not normally do.  In all situations, use your head.  Remember number 1 above and make a few phone calls when placed in a difficult situation.  Never assume that you’ll be okay or that “just this once” you’ll take care of this or that.
Remember, you are an adult!  You have a good head on your shoulders.  Use it!  Sometimes things are not as neat as they need to be.  Sometimes it’s not possible to follow every letter of every law, yet when those rare situations arise, everyone is counting on you to act like the adult you are and act responsibly.

What boundaries to you have set up in your ministry?

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Great post! I have learned over the past few years that taking a couple of students out to lunch is better than just taking one. I like the idea of covering your volunteers back by having them shoot you an email, or give you a quick call. I'll pass that along to them.